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Walking Home

October 20, 2009

“Sell your cleverness and purchase bewilderment.” – Rumi

 

megandtreeMy commute home from work consists of a ten minute walk through a garden, an avenue of trees, a field and a tiny path through some woods. We’ve been here for about five months now, and I have yet to take it for granted. It feels so special that on my very first walk, even though it was my first day and I was nervous, I whispered a greeting to several of the trees. (I have been known to talk to things in the past, but these trees in particular compelled my attention. I think they actually greeted me first.)

In the months since, I have gotten to know the residents of my walk quite well. We whisper to each other, and share the beginning and end of the day in quiet companionship. Yesterday on my walk home, though, something was different. Creating this website has already begun to change me. I have been paying far closer attention to my life, and trying to be more conscious in my thoughts and deeds. Yesterday the air was cold the way that only October air can be. The late afternoon light was shining golden through the all of the layers of copper and green and yellow and brown all around me. I walked up a slight rise and noticed a single white dandelion standing alone on the top of the hill, silhouetted against the group of dark trees. It sounds so simple but at that moment I had to stop and catch my breath. I felt connected: deep, dark, ancient, golden connection.

I read a poem once about trees. I can’t remember much about it, but I remember that it said that a tree’s reality was deeper and slower than ours and that we had to slow down if we wanted to make their acquaintance. I hope that whatever season it is in your world, that you are able to make friends with a tree today. I think you will find that it will appreciate the effort.

Oh, and send it my love!

xo

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Memory is a Funny Thing

October 11, 2009

“How many more times will you remember a certain afternoon of your childhood, some afternoon that’s so deeply a part of your being that you can’t even conceive of your life without it? Perhaps four or five times more. Perhaps not even that. How many more times will you watch the full moon rise? Perhaps twenty. And yet it all seems limitless.” — Paul Bowles

1984CrystalBarbieThis morning as I was vacuuming, I “sucked” something up. I heard it rattle and clatter through the pipe as it headed for the bag. This is an event normally unworthy of a blog post, but it was the thing that happened next that surprised me: in that moment I went straight back to being ten years old.

I got a Barbie for Christmas. She was “Crystal” Barbie and I loved her completely. Her dress was iridescent, white in some lights, purple in others. Oh, she was beautiful. Straight out of the box, she had golden hair and the most wonderful clear shoes – like glass slippers – I think her eyes were even purple. I remember playing with her and trying to keep her perfect, but being traumatized when I lost one of her shoes. I can still see myself lifting the hem of her dress and realizing that the shoe was gone. I looked everywhere but I never found it. We wondered if it had been vacuumed up, and my Mom checked, but it was too late. The bag had been changed. This morning, almost 25 years later, a clattering vacuum brought that memory back in vivid detail.

Why do we remember these strange small things? Why do I struggle to remember my Opa’s voice when I can hear my grade one teacher telling me that I had messy hair? Why did all of the times I was told I was smart or got good grades not stick as deep as the one ‘C’ that I got in writing in grade six? Is my attempt to decide on my truth possible? Can we rewire our brains to hold onto the good stuff and delete the bad or the unnecessary, or is there some point to our memory that I am missing? Could there be some lesson I have missed in the tale of the missing shoe? Giggle.  I’ll have to ponder that one.

(Note: I just did a search for Crystal Barbie to see if I could find an image and there she was! Barbie’s doll from 1984. Bless.)