“There is a lot to be said for pinning things to the earth so they don’t follow us around. There is a lot to be said for laying them to rest.” – Clarissa Pinkola Estes
You are grounded.
Do you hear me?
All of you.
All of the books that are whispering to me that they have the answer to all of my problems, but make me feel like a failure for not reading/ finishing/ doing them: you are grounded.
All of the clothes in my drawers that are sighing about the day that I will fit into them again, making me feel like a failure for not being thin: you are grounded.
All of the food that I am ‘supposed’ to eat because it’ll make me healthy and all of the eating plans I have made and failed at following, all of the diets I have tried and also failed at that made me feel like a pathetic fatty: you are grounded.
All of the emails I have not written back to, all of the phone calls I have forgotten to make/ not felt up to making that have made me feel like a bad friend: you are grounded.
All of the projects I have thought about starting that I haven’t grabbed with both hands, all of the guilt I have from when I have watched Lost instead of grabbing my creative dreams, and all of the feelings of inadequacy I carry from comparing myself to other people/ bloggers/ writers: you are grounded.
All of the crap in my head about not being a good enough wife because I am not currently a sex/ domestic/ intellectual goddess: you are grounded.
We’re done. Do you hear me? I refuse to play with you anymore. You are too heavy to carry and frankly, I am bored of you. In fact, I think that the weight I try so hard to shed might be made up of you. So you are grounded for the forseeable future. You are not welcome anymore. I am locking you in the spare room and leaving you there until I decide what to do with you.
I am not sorry.
megg
good for you. 🙂 refreshing to read.
I have some crap i would like to lock in that room too – i’ll be over shortly! xo
“I am not sorry.”
FAN-BLOODY-TASTIC!
RIGHT ON!
love love love love this.
Can I leave mine with yours??
Love this post!!
WHOOT!! Good for you 🙂 Love it!
Wow, just what I needed to read today 🙂
HELL YEAH! 🙂
LOVE LOVE LOVE!
Hell yeah.
“I am not sorry” – my favorite part of all.
You rock.
~liberating words…weight that many of us carry around is the same and it weighs on our hearts and minds so much that soon we can no longer take another step…you are grounded and you can do anything you wish to put your mind too…l?ve this…wishing you well and journey on…brightest blessings~
why are you writing about me again? I SO get where you are and send you big huge cyber hugs. kick that crap in the ass! ciao!
Hallelujah Sister! 🙂
you are AMAZING and i’m GLAD you’re not sorry
xox
Can we send them to bed without supper too? Love this!! I’m not sorry either! 😀
love it!
Well Said….
I just found your AMAZING blog today and these words were exactly what needed to pour into my brain today. Thanks so much for writing them down and sharing. I look forward to being a blog follower.
Amen! I needed this today, thank you =).
Hell yes.
🙂
Fan-tastic!! 😀 x
Amen to that. Thanks for your words and saying what I’ve been thinking.
Please forgive me for being so forward but…the spare room is NOT a good place to store this crap. It needs to be OUT of the house/mind so you can’t open the door. So you can’t even be tempted to open the door.
Put it all in a trash bag, tie it up tightly and then find a dumpster somewhere and toss it. Do NOT put it in the house trash…you don’t want to be tempted to pull the bag out of the trash so you can…
Start playing new tapes in your head. If you don’t have any, make them up. Be reasonable, don’t say stupid things like “I’m the goddess of the world”. That’s idiocy. Make reasonable, objectionable, obtainable goals and tapes to support them and play those tapes. Reward yourself when you’ve achieved even the smallest goal. It can something as simple as time spent on a great book, staring out the window daydreaming good things, sitting in the lawn chair…but it HAS to be something spent on YOU.
The clothes? Give them away or cut them up and make quilts or mini-art quilts or fabric projects.
The books? My trash is your treasure, give them away.
The e-mails and phone calls? Go forward.
The projects? 3-ring notebook and organize.
The food? As with all of life…moderation in all things.
Stop with the beating yourself up; there are plenty, as in way too many, folks standing in line to do that for you. -smile-
Moderation, Woman. Moderation.
I wonder if everyone feels this way at times…the inadequacy from comparing ourselves to other bloggers. (and people in general.)
Sometimes I feel so inspired, and other times I feel sad and defeated….I guess it depends on my mood and state of mind when I start reading.
I love this post Meg. There is so much power in your words. And once again, you describe so perfectly what so many of us feel, making us all feel a little less alone in our struggles.
I love you!!
We all feel inadequate at times, and sandra’s words are worth noting…getting rid of that negative talk is the beginning. But darling Megg… you have to love you for you …. are you kind?… does your hubby think you’re beautiful?… is your food 80% healthy?… are you keeping in touch with those that are close to you?… than you are doing all you can for now. Superwoman doesn’t really exist. Give yourself permission to be ‘normal’. Getting older definitely helps with the whole inadequate thing… even the most ‘together’ looking person has days like yours. Find your sense of personal style and dress the way you love… don’t wait to be a certain size before you feel gorgeous … cos you already are!
Luv Min
xxx
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Oh Meghan…this is great! Very liberating, and it’s just what I needed. It sure has put a great BIG smile on my face! GO GET EM, GIRL!
Aloha