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Who am I?

August 29, 2010

“What you call yourself matters.
Words send signals, labels are magnetic.
Your soul deserves accuracy.”- Danielle LaPorte

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My latest lesson has come up half a dozen times in the last few weeks. Lessons are like that. First they tap and then they knock and then they yell and then they show up with a brass band, horses and hula-hooping acrobats. I’m trying to learn how to listen when they tap or knock because it is getting increasingly difficult to clean up horse shit.

Jamie and the amazing group of women from Circe’s Circle were the tap. It wasn’t easy being called on my lack of ability to say, “I am a writer,” but it was exactly what I needed. Then I opened Danielle LaPorte’s site this morning and I heard a knock. I figured I’d better answer this door before the yelling starts.

“Recognize if you’ve outgrown your “title”.
Deepen your claim, or lighten it right up.
Carve out your own personal lexicon. Snug, and radiant.
Educate people in who you are.
We want to know, for real. ” – Danielle LaPorte

Who am I?

Armed with journal, pen, and my pink suede Oxford Dictionary for clarification, I am off to make a list. My soul does deserve accuracy. (As does yours – you are welcome to join me. Who accurately are you?)

I’ll meet you soon.

xo

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Collect Yourself

August 10, 2010

“I can’t remember the last time I really worried about being appealing… it was a really long time ago.” – Meryl Streep

 

vision boardingI am in the middle of a life-long love affair with books.  As I type, I am surrounded by a riotous bookshelf, a shorter cubby-hole of precious volumes, and at least three piles of books on the floor of my office that have not yet found permanent homes.  I’m so obsessed that my husband had to intervene a few years ago when the postman started making cracks about us keeping Amazon afloat.

There is one book, however, that I value above all others, and it is one that I have created myself.  In 1995 I read the book Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach.  This book inspired me to start keeping an illustrated journal – really a massive, ongoing vision board – and I have kept at it for 15 years.  In some ways it is a lovely reminder of who I have been, but lately it has had a well-needed edit.  While gleefully ripping things out or covering things up that no longer represent who I am or where I want to be, I’ve been engaged in an unusual visualization.  As I tear out the photos of the women I no longer want to imitate and add photos full of colour and juice and vibrancy, I am claiming the woman that I have become, and it feels good.

Colour, bookshelves, teacups, rooms with floorboards instead of carpets, artist studios, rustic kitchens, flowers, quotes, quirks, peace, whimsy, treehouses, laughter, honesty and beauty – that is what my book is full of.  If I were to write a role profile to fill the position of the best me there is, it would look pretty much like the contents of this journal.  I’ve read in at least a dozen places that one of the best ways to know yourself is to collect what you love.  Well, I don’t know much for sure, but I can agree with that prescription.  All you need is an empty book, magazines, scissors and glue and your life will change.

Collect what you love and understanding will follow.  I promise.

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Knowing Sacred

August 3, 2010

“Love’s greatest gift is its ability to make everything it touches sacred.” – Barbara DeAngelis

 

BBC window 2I promised you definitions, and instead I am going to give you half an explanation.  It has been a little while since I wrote the last post.  This is partly because I have been working on getting my book ready to send out, but mostly it is because I had to sit with Sacred Feminine for a little while before I knew what to say.

Thinking back to the moment I found those words, I remember that I knew that sacred just felt right.  It felt like my cells sighed; like my constant search had been temporarily suspended.  Other times that I have felt like this have always involved a moment of pure connection: being with dear friends or family, standing at the edge of the sea or a beautiful lake, experiencing something exquisite, reading the right words, meeting a remarkable tree, or being somewhere beloved by others.  It stands to reason then that sacred for me is that point of connection where I and something or someone else truly meet.

Yesterday Mark and I spent some time in the Victoria and Albert Museum in London.  Its collection spans time and the globe, and walking around any corner, you find yourself face-to-face with something wonderful.  In many of the galleries, my heart beat with appreciation and connection and it didn’t matter that I did not share a time or a religion or even a continent with the people who had created the treasures in front of me: we were connected by the beautiful object between us.

One of Style Statements explanations of sacred is: “anything goes if it is deemed cherished.”  I like that, but I have realized that it doesn’t have to be cherished by me for it to be sacred.  I can hold a place for someone else’s cherished in my heart.  Sacred is that space.  It is the space where meaning lives, where understanding lies and where we meet in the middle.  It is the place where I feel the most connected and the most free.

Does that make sense?  If it does, I’d love to meet you there. (I’ll bring the tea.)

xo