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Big Girl Pants.

January 22, 2012

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

Paddington Station

Be gentle with yourself, they have said.

Remember you are a fragile soul, I have read.

Even the kindest words can be poison.

Because I have only listened to those words when fear or grief has caused me pain.

And instead of making me healthier, they caused a kind of paralysis.

Because sometimes we need to be gentle with ourselves, and sometimes we need permission to play small.

But now that we are grown-up, most times we need know that we are strong and capable and that we have what it takes to take the next step.

Most times the best course of action is not to stay fragile.

Most times the best course of action is to put on our big girl pants or our invisible crown and prove to ourselves that we have got this.

It’s our internal Supernanny that we need, not our fairy godmother.

Take the chance. Make the leap. Sit on the naughty step. Get off your ass. Clean your house. Eat your greens. Play bigger. Get dressed. Make the call. Move your body. Do the math. Book the ticket. Take responsibility.

You’ve got this.

xo

archetypes, Sacred Feminine, totems, Wild Woman

Bear Medicine

July 24, 2011

“When you imagine your future, do not think that you will be the same then as you are now.” – Sanaya Roman

 

loon 2Loon on Kearney Lake, Algonquin Park photo by me.

When I was in Canada, we had a close encounter with a black bear.  Coming out of hibernation and finding very little to eat, some of the bears in Algonquin Park decide that the food that the humans are cooking and leaving around would be a lot more filling than waiting for the blueberries to ripen.  We now know that a) they can smell beer through cans (in our neighbor’s campsite) and b) that even rice cakes smell nice when you are starving (in my brother and sister-in-law’s dining tent.)

Yes, I know that the photo above is not a bear. I didn’t stop to take any pictures of it ripping through our dining tent as I carried my 2.5 year old niece to the safety of the van!  A park warden arrived shortly thereafter and began shooting rubber bullets at the bear to scare it away.  It was not a nice connecting-with-animals experience for any of us – including the bear.

Before I left for Canada I was going through a prolonged and very boring angst-y period about what sort of writing I should be doing and who I was.  Lots of signs happened around me showing me the way and I half-heartedly paid attention to them.  But that’s the problem with signs and nudges: if you don’t listen to them, they get louder and stronger.  Looking up ‘Bear’ in Animal Speak, I found that it is a powerful messenger, linked with myths and stories. Bear, it would seem had a message for me and it really wanted me to pay attention.

While I was in the park I saw loons, beavers, moose, chipmunks, bluejays and a bear.  Did I run home and look up all of those creatures to see what messages they had?  Nope. Did I listen to the gentle messengers in case they wanted to tell me something?  Nope.  That poor bear had to get shot in the backside to get my attention.  And as much message as Bear had for me, I got a message in the method as well.  Starving, it was so desperate for any nourishment that it risked its safety to get it.  It was not interested in us at all; it only wanted to eat.  It was our fear and our reaction that made the situation turn violent and frightening.

Nourish the wild soul, listen for the messages, pay attention and don’t be afraid of connection with the sacred and the wild.  These are lessons I humbly accept from the bear.  But I got another one I like a lot too.  It’s the one my friend Jo give me when I told her about the bear:”it’s time to come out of your cave!”

RrrroooOOoooooAAAaaaaaRRRrrrrr!

xo

archetypes, The Seeker

Inside Voice

January 6, 2010

“Once a desire has been born within you, you must look at the desire if you are to feel good. And the reason for that is, you cannot revert back to less than life has caused you to become.” – Abraham Hicks

 

colbert_foolI have posted this image before on my old blog, but I came across it again this morning and it felt as true to me as it did several years ago, so I wanted to post it again. I’m sure you have all had the experience of seeing an image and it being you – well that is what this picture is for me – it’s me!

I’m taking this whole happily ever after thing very seriously, but what I have had to realize is that I am also a seeker by nature. I love a good quest, a good nose, a good search. I think that the issue has been that I have been looking outside of myself for me. Now I am seeking the me at my core: the one that packs light, has wings and comes from a place of joy and connection.

When I was a teacher I used to tell over-exuberant students to use their ‘inside’ voices. I guess I should have taken my own advice and used my own. Lesson learned!

(Image by Joanna Powell Colbert. Click on it to be taken to her website.)