“As I release the past, the new and fresh and vital enter. I allow life to flow through me.” – Louise Hay
Sometimes we learn our lessons the first time, and other times it takes several tries. Despite surrounding myself with every spiritual and growth book Amazon can recommend, I have been banging my head against the wall trying to figure out what is going on in my life. Fire, flood, filth, drought, pests, isolation, accidents, falls, parents going through major strain, financial issues, constant construction noise, and illnesses have made our world feel like an overwhelming place to be. What was I not getting?
And then I got it.
My life is constipated. (HA! Bet you weren’t expecting that!) Bear with me while I explain.
My thinking has become stuck full of outdated dogma and questions and fears and uncertainty. My house is full of stuff that I don’t love or need anymore. My body is full of weight and waste that is really just old gunk. I don’t need it anymore. To put it bluntly, I am living with a whole lot of stuck crap. The problem comes when instead of getting rid of it – changing what needs to be changed – I continue to ask why. I am coming at life from a constipated place, so the universe has been giving me more crap.
How did I figure it out? In the course of one day I got a note from the Universe talking about feeling good, talked to my Dad and realized he was going to be okay, read a quote in this book about finally realizing that I am a grown up and listened to a talk by Neale Donald Walsch that gave me a real a-ha moment.
The real ‘Secret’ isn’t about concentrating so hard that you get a parking place, or the shiny red bicycle, or a cup of coffee (if you’ve seen the movie you know what I mean.) They did us a disservice making us think that it was about having stuff. None of that matters. All any of it is about is figuring out what feels good and staying there.
It is about love, plain and simple.
I’m going to try out a little experiment. I am going to stop trying to create wealth, success and a shiny red anything. That’s like trying to ride a 10-speed before you have taken off the training wheels. If I try to manifest anything, it’ll likely just get stuck in all of that crap that’s in the way anyway. Instead I am going to try to clear the route.
From now on, this is my new criteria: does this feel like love?
Because if it isn’t love, I don’t want it.
Yes.
Chronic attention to unwanted things holds you in a place of disallowing your physical well-being, as well as disallowing the solutions to other subjects you are focused upon.” – Abraham-Hicks
~a beautiful…SIMPLE question to ask…we all want to feel l?ve…may your path be cleared and your life start flowing through…thank you for sharing this…brightest blessings~
Oh my, I felt reading this like I have written it. I have come to the same conclusion a while back for exactly the same reason. And I want to encourage you to go for it. My life feels so much better. And I found that really that shiny red bycicle is not for me in the first place. 🙂
Everything here you have said here, are things I’ve been working on over the last year… I love how you’ve boiled it all down to such a deceptively simple question. Does this feel like love? So simple, and so very effective in discovering what is really important for the right reasons.
Thank you for this fresh perspective.
ooh i LOVE this post! your words felt like they were written for me too! i missed neale’s talk on the wish summit 🙁 but he played a big part in transforming my life the first time round, maybe i am ready for another step now too. thanks for giving me a nudge in the right direction too. i know one things for sure, when i read your words or – even better – get to spend some time with you, it definitely feels like love 😉
that is utterly beautiful (well the constipation metaphor is not so beautiful – having worked as a nurse it is all too evocative!) 🙂 but the idea of checking if stuff feels like love BEAUTIFUL!!!
It’ll work like prune juice!
Oh my. EXACTLY what I needed to read. You managed to express everything my heart has been telling me, but what I’ve been able to articulate and wrap my brain around. Thank you. I’m on the same journey as you … “does this feel like love” Blessings.
perfect, thank you!
Thank you Megg!! You have just given me an Aha! moment.
Wonderful post. It reminds of something I heard to think about while you’re clearing out: ‘Space is a commodity too.’ So now I ask myself do I value my space more than this object? Usually the answer is yes.
i hear you loud and clear meg. this spoke to me so much.
this is a really beautiful post and i thank you for letting it out.
Oh you have really been through some difficult times lately!
*hugs you*
When I struggle, my mom asks me a very similar question…are you coming from love? or fear?
Puts things in perspective very quickly.
Good stuff, Megg!
I’ve never had much interest in manifesting a parking space and always felt like a bit of a bad sport for that – but asking myself is this coming from love? does this feel, look and act like love? Now that’s something I can get enthusiastic about!
Love this – completely true! The other day I opened my cupboard, and all this storage junk from my uni days fell down. My past is literally hitting me on the head!
I am on the same path-clearing mission this month, and am finding this site useful in motivating me to clear out some of the junk that is holding me back: http://makeundermylife.com/makeunder-step-three-identify-intentions-2/
oh meg! i’m so glad i got the chance to read a bit about the context you’re living in. it sounds like you’ve been in a really tough place, but the muscles are beginning to loosen, the path is beginning to clear, and all that crap is about to dump right out and make way for the good, the joy, the LOVE, as you put it. i feel really happy for you. 🙂
i know all about the constipated life feeling. i’m so glad you’ll be playing the free joy game with us. i’m actually learning that the more space i clear for joyful experiments, the more ideas i come up with for my next joyful experiments, the more space i clear, and the cycle goes on… it’s beginning to feel FUN! (which IS the point, i suppose)… but mostly, it’s beginning to feel less scary, less, challenging, and more natural & invigorating.
all my love & support to you, sister. you sound like you’re right where you need to be.
Yep, I reckon you’ve got it. This makes total sense to me, well said and good luck! 😀
Amen. I recommend the book the Power of Flow…it is one of the books that I love and keeps me living in Flow. Flowing with luscious love, creativity, abundance and joy!
Too much good stuff here.
The constipation of life…MAN do I EVER get THAT. LOL!
I was listening to Hay House the other day, but I forget who it was– dang it! Robert Ohotto, maybe?– anyway, they were talking about The Secret missing the main point. That our intentions can bring us closer to Source, not closer to stuff. I liked that.
🙂